How To Give Feedback and Lose Your “But”

The agreement frame is a much more gentle way to give feedback.  Typically, when giving feedback, people will say something like this: “I really think that you did a great job on the West project, John.  But really I need you to do is be more punctual.”  The word...

The Milton Model

The Milton model was developed by Richard Bandler et al by observing the language patterns of Milton Erickson, who would help his clients change through conversational hypnotic patterns.  While the meta model is comprised of linguistic patterns to gain specificity in...

How To Be a Better Speller

My wife reported one day that my eight year old daughter was having a hard time spelling and asked me if I would work with her to see if I had any ideas.  I asked my wife what the problem seemed to be and she reported that my daughter “just can’t seem to sound out the...

Redesign Your Life with Effective Strategy Changes

First, it is important to say that if what you are doing works, there is probably no reason to change or fix the strategy.  But if your strategy is not working, what’s stopping you from making the changes necessary for your success now? There are several ways to...