Elijah Waiting for a Message

I like this story because Elijah is an important figure in many cultures and countries.  But even if Elijah is not an important figure in your culture, the story of Elijah is a profound one story about listening and finding answers.  This story is paraphrased, so any...

How To Give Feedback and Lose Your “But”

The agreement frame is a much more gentle way to give feedback.  Typically, when giving feedback, people will say something like this: “I really think that you did a great job on the West project, John.  But really I need you to do is be more punctual.”  The word...

The Milton Model

The Milton model was developed by Richard Bandler et al by observing the language patterns of Milton Erickson, who would help his clients change through conversational hypnotic patterns.  While the meta model is comprised of linguistic patterns to gain specificity in...

How To Be a Better Speller

My wife reported one day that my eight year old daughter was having a hard time spelling and asked me if I would work with her to see if I had any ideas.  I asked my wife what the problem seemed to be and she reported that my daughter “just can’t seem to sound out the...